Catch A Cheating Spouse…
January 14, 2009 by abuhakim
Filed under Catching The Cheater
There are many ways to catch a cheating spouse. I will outline a handful here:
Confronting the spouse: Occasionally this works, but most often you are met with a wall of denial. It’s only wise to confront your spouse about cheating if you have hard proof, such as photos, voicemails, and emails the clearly demonstrate infidelity.
Private Detective: This will usually do the trick, but to secure the services of a private detective be prepared to pay several thousands dollars. Maybe it’s worth it, maybe it’s not. If you have extra money and can afford it, go for it. And while they are often successful, sometimes they are not.
Be Your Own Detective: This is the option most people take. There are several methods. You can tail your spouse when they go out, although this can be stressful and even dangerous. If you see something (your spouse with lover) you might be provoked to confront your spouse and their lover and these situations can quickly escalate into violence. I don’t recommend it.
If you see your spouse make a phone-call hit redial on the phone after he or she is finished. This will often put you in contact with spouse’s girlfriend or boyfriend.
Monitor credit cards. See a charge for a hotel room that shouldn’t be there? That’s how most cheaters get caught.
Here is the very best way to be your own detective. Find computer evidence. 99% of cheating has an online/computer component. They often use email to schedule affairs and believe it or not a lot cheaters find people to cheat with online on ‘hook-up’ sites. The one problem is that a cheating spouse often knows it’s wise to hide email or website evidence. So this is where keylogger software is helpful. Keylogger software is simple to install and will track on their online activity and send a daily report to your email address. You install the software, set it to stealth mode (it becomes hidden) and your spouse will have no idea they’re computer activity is being monitored. It’s the easy way to catch a cheater. And it’s dirt cheap.
Once you have incriminating email, sites they visit, you can print off the evidence and confront your spouse with it.
Here is an excellent tool which will track the footprints and provide you with the document evidence you need to catch your cheating spouse, lover or partner.
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Celeste, S. (2008, October 16). Catch A Cheating Spouse. Retrieved January 13, 2009, from http://ezinearticles.com/?Catch-A-Cheating-Spouse&id=1590813
How To Catch A Cheater & Get Hard Evidence…You Are Busted!
January 14, 2009 by yommys01
Filed under Catching The Cheater
1. Cell phone.
Is he or she suddenly getting calls more often than usual? Calls that they immediately dismiss when in the company of you? What about text messages. Are text messages coming in more often? Is he or she being a little more discreet than usual with his texting?
Or how about this:
Are they suddenly turning off their cell phones in the presence of you? Odd, isn’t it. Usually their phones will be on, but now they decide to turn them off, perhaps in fear of receiving calls from “someone else”.
2. Computer (This is the big one!)
Today’s type of cheating almost always goes down on the computer. Chat rooms, messaging, emails, myspace cheating, there are so many options for cheating to take place. Usually their cheating behavior starts on the internet and continues, or else at some point communication will involve the computer and internet. It’s just too easy to get away with. Or so they think.
Take special note of computer activity the same way you would of cell phone activity. The computer is where you are going to nail them with the hard evidence you need to prove their infidelity.
3. Keylogger Software (Here’s your evidence!)
What if you could actually see where they are roaming around online? Cheaters are such risk takers nowadays that they often will have no problem actually using YOUR computer to visit a chat room, drop an email, or do a myspace message. Leave them alone in a room with your computer and they can’t resist.
If you get keylogger software, which you can download right online and it easily installs on whichever computer you are using, then you can track cheaters internet activity and they will never know about it. Matter of fact, even if they try to delete their internet history, you can still see everywhere they’ve visited and the exact messages they’ve exchanged! You can print all this out, and present it to the cheaters face, and say…”BUSTED”! Downloading keylogger software on your computer or the cheaters computer could finally bring you the answers you deserve and need to know.
=>Best Keylogger Software For Catching A Cheating Spouse, Lover or Partner
McDoogle, C. (2008, November 5). How to Catch a Cheater and Get Hard Evidence – “You Are Busted!”. Retrieved January 13, 2009, from http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Catch-a-Cheater-and-Get-Hard-Evidence—andquot;You-Are-Busted!andquot;&id=1652336
Top Ten Reasons Men Cheat…
January 14, 2009 by yommys01
Filed under Uncategorized
Why men cheat on women is an age-old question. The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Nevertheless, we have compiled a list of the top 10 reasons why both married and unmarried men cheat. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.
So why do some men cheat in relationships? Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we suppose to be further evolved than a chimp? Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions? Aparrently not always.
Here are the top 10 reasons why men cheat.
1. Because they had the option. The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.
2. It boosts their ego. Sometimes men don’t feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex any more and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There’s nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.
3. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.
4. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.
5. He’s fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.
6. Your sex life sucks. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from getting boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.
7. To get revenge. A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old fashioned sex?
8. It’s new, different and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.
9. To see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.
10. Because you have allowed it in the past. If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.
Reasons why men cheat can be more complex than the above list or even be a combination of a few different reasons. Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest. After all, Karma can be a bitch.
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Stephany Alexander is a relationship expert and CEO/Founder of WomanSavers.com – The World’s Largest Database Rating Men. She holds a degree in Communications and is the author of the book “Sex, Lies and the Internet.” Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Stephany_Alexander |
Cheating Is Not The Problem… It’s Your Relationship!
Most people involved with someone who cheats on them, lay the blame on thecheating partner, the husband or wife who broke their vows, the girlfriend who had the secret relationship with her co-worker and so on. But the real problem is not the fact that you’re significant other cheated on you.
The real problem is your relationship!
Cheating is selfish behavior. Selfish people are self-centered and only really concerned about themselves. Though they may mask their true nature for a time, eventually, who they really are will surface.
Husbands who cheat as well as wives who cheat are incapable of real intimacy, which is the core problem. People who cheat are emotionally unavailable for their partners. Therefore they seek to handle stress, pain, anger and any number of emotions outsides of the bounds of the committed relationship. Therein is the problem.
When we think of intimacy in our modern Western culture, it is most often attributed to the carnal, the romantic or the sexual union between two people. Intimacy is actually much, much more.
Intimacy is about sharing your deepest most inner being with another. It’s about being transparent in what you think and how you feel. It’s about openness. Because most people enter into relationships based on false notions of love and romance, when those aspects of the relationship begin to fade, so does the relationship.
Rather than honestly communication their thoughts and feelings to their partner; good, bad or ugly, men and women seek counsel outside of the relationship with friends or family members who at best can only relate from their own experiences which too, are often skewed based on personal experience.
Honesty with yourself above all else is a core principle that is overlooked. When we’re dishonest with ourselves we compromise with those core values that should be non-negotiable. The more we slide away from these core values, the less we hold to our true selves, the more the other person believes that what they say or do is all right.
Deep inside we begin to resent them. We grow out of touch. Why, because there was never true intimacy to begin with.
Relationships in general take work to maintain and mature. When we partner with another individual, we both bring baggage. Some of the baggage is acceptable and some we just throw in the closet. Unfortunately, it all begins to surface eventually. When we do not deal with our issues in a healthy and honest way, they fester. As is the case with most codependent behavior, cheating is just a symptom of deeper unresolved issues.
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