Tiger Woods Infidelity|Selfish & Self-Centered

December 18, 2009 by abuhakim  
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Recent polls on Tiger Woods are divided into two or three camps of thoughts.

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Tiger Woods has fallen out of favor with a large percentage of the public since the revelation of his extramarital involvements. The public can be very fickle with regard to its heroes.

The philosophy “what have you done for me lately” prevails. I think very often that the “sin” is being caught.

Many politicians, sports figures, and other celebrities pay publicist to manage their images. Their paid staff fronts for them so that there is no appearance of wrongdoing.

Polls only reflect public knowledge of behavior the public knows nothing of the real character of these individual that are under public scrutiny.

There are unique elements that drive highly successful people. Sometimes the character elements that create a “number one” in anything are not particularly attractive or alluring.

To be number one at anything requires a certain  selfishness and self-contentedness.

Super athletes like Tiger Woods spend most of their time developing their craft, not relationship skills. Most of these iconic figures are self-adsorbed and self-centered. The time they spend developing a perfect golf swing, hitting tennis ball, shagging flies or ground balls etc, requires the kind of attention that leaves little room for healthy relationships.

Many women are attracted to these superb athletes not understanding that what makes them great at their craft, is their selfishness.

These women are in denial, thinking falsely that they (the woman) can change them (the athlete).

You have to understand that the enormous ego that it takes to be number one leaves little room for validating and nurturing their so-called loved ones.

There is no time to build a healthy perspective that leads to healthy relationships. They give things they give very little of themselves. Cheating satisfies the ego.

Every conquest is another trophy.

It is reported that Tiger’s wife Elin Nordegren had concerns about Tiger’s fidelity before they married…

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Save Your Marriage Secrets

July 21, 2009 by abuhakim  
Filed under Save My Marriage

How To Save My Marriage

One of the greatest lessons in life is the realization that the limit to your learning is endless. Old, young, wise, not so wise, all people have the opportunity to learn something new every day. You may or may not be aware of it, but over the course of a lifetime you learn more about how life works, how other people work, and even about yourself and how you interact with others. Life is continually calling us into learning, and this is especially applicable when it comes to human relationships.

One of the greatest relationships we are called into over the course of our life is marriage. This does not necessarily mean that it is the most important life relationship, but it is one whose success or failure has the greatest impact on your adult life. And in looking at marriage, there are a number of key skills that are crucial to navigating your way through marriage.

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3 Keys To Transform Your Marriage

July 21, 2009 by abuhakim  
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Recognizing there is a problem…

Recognizing you have a marriage problem is the first step along the road to transforming your marriage, and for most couples simply acknowledging there is a problem shatters the marriage myth. According to love stories, movies, and fairytales we are supposed to live ‘happily ever after’. But what happens when Snow White develops a drinking problem? What happens when Robin Hood’s long working hours start affecting his marriage to Maid Marian? What happens when Cinderella says she has ‘fallen out of love’?

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Steve McNair: The Ultimate Price For Cheating On Your Spouse…

July 16, 2009 by abuhakim  
Filed under Cheating Spouse, Featured

Steve McNair & Sahel Kazemi

Steve McNair & Sahel Kazemi

I think Jason Cole, Yahoo Sports, summed up our feelings about the tragic death of Steve McNair in his article: Fans can’t avoid “the elephant in the room” at McNair’s memorial “There are a year’s worth of sermons and lessons that people could take from the death of Steve McNair at the hands of his unstable mistress.”

Here’s a man who seemingly had everything – beautiful wife and children, fame, money and the respect of his peers and community, yet something was obviously terribly wrong.

Steve McNair paid the ultimate price for cheating on his wife – death.

Somehow the public’s fascination with the rich and famous desensitizes them to the fact that a wife is now a widow, children are now fatherless and friends and family are left “struggling with questions.”
This incident should remind us that infidelity has consequences. It causes pain to everyone involved directly and indirectly.

Regardless of your position in life whether private or public the betrayal of marital infidelity destroys lives. Even if you’re not married; but in a committed relationship, the betrayal of trust hurts. It erodes the injured parties’ ability to trust in the future for fear of being hurt again.

We are not privy to the intimate details of the McNair’s marriage.  It remains a mystery. What is apparent is that his affair was very public by all indications, most notably the now infamous TMZ photo.

The unfortunate truth however is that most men and women involved in with a cheater will never take action. Whether out of fear of finding out the truth (denial), fear of financial loss, or fear of physical harm they simply acquiesce to the reality that their husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on them.

The real question will you take action if you suspect that your spouse or partner is cheating on you?
For most of us, if infidelity should strike our relationships, it will be far from the scrutiny of the media. It will be personal, but no less painful.

Breaking news of cheating spouses in recent weeks lets us know that the incidents of cheating are on the rise, not the decline.

Cheating on your spouse is fast becoming the norm, not the exception as evidenced by Governor Mark Sanford, South Carolina and Jon Goesslin star of the reality T.V. show Jon & Kate Plus 8.

What Can You Do If You Suspect A Cheating Spouse?

If you suspect your spouse or significant other is cheating, you have two options…

  1. Do Nothing…
  2. Get The Truth

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Infidelity Signs – 3 Easiest Signs To Catch A Cheating Spouse

May 21, 2009 by abuhakim  
Filed under Catching The Cheater

What are the infidelity signs of a cheating man or woman? If you are reading this article, you are probably suspecting that your husband or wife is cheating on you. However, you are not 100 % sure but you have a very strong feeling about it.

Well, if that is the situation, it is probably time to find out the truth. Catching a cheating spouse is not really as difficult as it seems. It can be very easy if you know the infidelity signs to look out for.

While some infidelity signs are quite subtle and not easy to catch, a number of them are pretty obvious and you should be able to spot them easily. Let us look at some of those infidelity signs that are easy to catch.

1)    Sneaky Behavior Around The Phone

If your spouse is behaving sneakily around the phone, chances are he or she may be having an extra marital affairs. For example, whenever he/she sees you entering the room, she quickly hangs up. Or he/she may lower his/her volume or just suddenly become silent.

Another point to take note is this:

Is your spouse using the cell phone more than the home phone? Cheating men and women are afraid of being caught and because of that, they prefer to use cell phone.

2)    Becoming Less Affectionate

Has your spouse become less affectionate than before? Usually, one tell tale sign of cheating is that your spouse will become less affectionate to you than before. This is because he/she has found a new love and their affection is now reserved for their new love.

Sometimes, cheating spouses may suddenly become more affectionate than ever. This happens because of guilt. They simply want to relieve their guilt by treating their partner better.

3)    Taking More Time TO Dress Up

If you spouse is now suddenly taking more time to dress up than he/she used to, this may be another sign of infidelity. Chances are, he/she Is trying to dress up to impress his/her new lover.

Has your husband been putting on cologne recently? Has your wife betting putting on perfume more often recently? In fact, another use of cologne or perfume is to cover up the scent of another man or woman.

Now, even if you have observed signs of cheating, you still shouldn’t confront your spouse yet. Chances are he/she will deny or simply become more defensive. Before confronting your spouse, you will need more concrete evidence. Infidelity signs are just signs and cannot be used as concrete evidence against them.

Infidelity Signs?

Catching a cheating spouse is very easy once you know what you need to look out for. Visit the website below to find out the 10 easiest infidelity signs to catch.

Infidelity Signs

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Catch A Cheating Spouse With A Reverse Cell Phone Trace

May 4, 2009 by abuhakim  
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Use Reverse Cell Phone Trace To Catch Cheating Spouse

Quickly and anonymously reverse look-up cell phone numbers!

Quickly and anonymously reverse look-up cell phone numbers!

Do you suspect that your partner is cheating on you because of odd things about her or his cell phone use? Perhaps you’re seeing a unrecognized cell phone number that keeps appearing on your cell phone bill that you’ve no explanation for.

Maybe your spouse hangs up, goes elsewhere, or speaks very quietly on the cell phone when you come into the room. These feelings of suspicion puts an enormous strain on a relationship and drive you nuts.

You could ask your spouse straight off but the relationship will never be the same if you are wrong. A better course of action is to do a reverse cell phone search to get a conclusive answer. No one gets hurt if your mistrust was unjustified.

It’s always best to find out sooner if your spouse is cheating. Because reverse cell phone look-ups provide a lot of information, it’s easy to rule out any innocent explanations for the strange numbers and the unusual pattern of cell phone use.

You won’t get any information with a free service if the number comes from a cell phone. The reason is that cellular phone providers don’t make their customer’s phone numbers public. Only a paid service has access to the listings with this type of information.

The information detailing who owns the cell phone as well as where the owner resides and additional info will come in a report. These reports can be full of extensive information about marital status, court records, address history, family members, and employment.

A lot of this information is taken from data archives used by private investigators. Your assessment of your spouses phone calls will be based on accurate and up to date information.

Take control now and get an answer to your questions about your partner. Make use of a reverse cell phone directory search to discreetly get the answers that you need. You owe it to yourself.

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How Did You Find Out You Were Being Cheated On?

April 7, 2009 by abuhakim  
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How Did You Find Out Your Significant Other Was Cheating On You?

Let Us Know… Add Your Comment!

When you found out you were being cheated on by your significant other, how did it happen?

  • You caught them in the act…
  • A friend found out and let you know…
  • Relative told you…
  • Co-worker saw them and told you…
  • They told you themselves…
  • The other woman told you…
  • The other man told you…
  • You found evidence…

Tell us what happened…

Signs Of Cheating In A Relationship

March 23, 2009 by abuhakim  
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Do You Recognize These Signs of Cheating In Your Relationship?

The most disturbing, and perhaps the most heart-breaking, news you can ever receive is your spouse’s involvement with someone else. You feel angry and betrayed with a deep sense of emptiness. You’re so devastated and you want to confront him/her, but you’re trying so hard to restrain yourself for fear you may wind up saying or doing something you might regret later on.

First, it is important to remember that no matter how bad things look, there is no point in spending your time worrying.  Until you have proof and your suspicions are confirmed, worrying about it won’t help you. Even some of the most blatant Signs of Cheating in a Relationship can be perfectly innocent.  While pretending that there are no signs isn’t helpful, it is equally true that you should not make too much of these signs until you have proof of infidelity.

Here are some Signs of Cheating in a Relationship

The Cell Phone. Have you noticed unusual or suspicious cell phone behavior? Does your spouse need to take calls in another room? Are there so many text messages that he would not like you to see? What about pictures of “strangers”? In today’s society everyone carries a cell phone, even kids. So it’s not uncommon for your partner to have a phone or use their phone. But if he or she is been secretive with his or her cell phone then he may be cheating in the relationship.

Condoms. You find condoms in their wallet or purse. If you all don’t use condoms as a form of birth-control, this is a definite sign. If you do, but your sexual activities are confined to your own bedroom, why are they carrying condoms?

Unusual Computer Activity. If your spouse is suddenly spending late hours surfing the net or creating new email accounts and password incrypting their accounts, it’s usually a sign that they’re hiding something. Email & text messaging are one of the most common methods of communication for cheating spouses with their lovers.

Changes in Sexual Activity. We are all creatures of habit. If you’ve noticed changing in your spouses/partners sexual practices; things that just don’t seem normal, it could be a sign that their experimenting with someone else. Likewise, if you notice a decrease in their sexual attraction to you, the same could be true.

Physical evidence.  Lipstick on the collar, a scrap of paper that says “call me”, or odd numbers that appear more than chance would allow on the cell phone bill are examples of physical ways to catch a cheating spouse.

Social Changes. It is perfectly healthy to have other friends even after marriage and definitely acceptable to be spending time with them. However, are there changes their social patterns? Is your spouse spending more and more time with his/her friends than with you lately? This can be an indication of infidelity.

The above are some of the well know signs of cheating in a relationship but no matter how painful the situation is, the best action is to equip yourself with “real” information that will help you to discover the truth.

This is why knowing all the signs of cheating in a relationship is a must,  as there are many more.

Thankfully there are some simple steps which you can take to discover the truth about your spouse, especially if you suspect them of  cheating.

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Why Catch The Cheating Spouse – Part2

March 22, 2009 by abuhakim  
Filed under Cheating Spouse

Reasons Why Women Stay In Bad Relationships…

Let me share a few. (Albeit, these are mostly reasons that women stay in bad relationships).

  • He will change.
  • He pays my bills.
  • Am used to him and I know him better than the devil.
  • He has infected me with an incurable disease so who will want me now.
  • I have a child or children with him; let me stay for their sake.
  • I can’t feed the kids, care for them nor educate them.
  • I feel obligated because he has done so much for me e.g. he bought me a car, etc
  • Scared of starting another relationship because the next guy might be worse than him.
  • I still love him even if he hits me when he loses his temper or comes home drunk.
  • He says he still loves me and cares for me.
  • I have already spent then prime of my life with him and am older now, so let me just stay with him.
  • If I leave, my family and friends will talk and say I have failed to keep my marriage.
  • I don’t have a job as I left high school to stay with him; where will I go?

Here’s the truth. Believing any of the above is just feeding into a lie. My experience has shown me that “change isn’t change, until its change”. Until YOU decide to make a change, nothing will happen.

Consequences of being with a cheater…

The Blame Game: These feelings of guilt motivate the cheater to demonize the faithful spouse or lover in an attempt to justify their affair.

You Pay for Their Bad Behavior: The cheating spouse will tell their story often and to anyone who will listen, to the point that they will finally begin to truly believe that the left behind spouse deserves punishment. The faithful spouse is the offender and the persecutor and needs to be dealt with harshly.

Shocked and Awed: The faithful spouse will question their own sanity and replay their marriage in their mind trying to find some hint of all the unhappiness they are told of by the unfaithful spouse.

Disease: Potential for STD’s and other sexually transmitted diseases.

Children: Children are damaged in the process, sometimes being scarred for life as one or the other parent is made to be the villain by the other.

Relationships: Family and friends are hurt as a result of infidelity. They often feel forced to take sides.

Summary: Choosing to find out the truth or not is a choice only you can make. However, although the truth may be painful, that pain will only last for a season. What about the pain and anguish of a life wasted? If you’re married to someone or in a committed relationship with your partner and you suspect them of cheating, there are already deeper problems with the relationship. Apparently, there have already been “red” flags of potential infidelity.

Remaining in a state of limbo in your relationship is a sign of low self-esteem or at the extreme a sign of insanity.

Finding out the truth, either that they have been unfaithful or that you’re concerns were unfounded (then you really need help with your issues) is the only way to move forward in a healthy and positive way.

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Why Catch The Cheating Spouse?

March 22, 2009 by abuhakim  
Filed under Featured

Why Do You Want To Catch The Cheater?

Here’s a serious question. Why are you here at this website?

Since this website is about Catching Cheating Spouses, Lovers or Partners I can only assume that either you suspect your husband, partner or significant other of cheating on you or that you have some warped fascination with the subject of infidelity.

Assuming that you’re not some warped, mentally and emotionally unbalanced person, then I guess you have a legitimate reason to want to find out as much as you can about cheating, cheaters and how to catch them.

A simple search on “Cheating Spouses” or “How To Catch Cheating XXXX” reveals a plethora of websites, products, and techniques for catching suspected cheaters.

The bigger question however is, “Why Do You Want To Catch Them?” Why is the answer to this question important? Because until you answer this question, you can do all the research on the subject of infidelity in the world, but I seriously doubt that you’ll take any real action.

Why Do You Want To Catch A Cheating spouse, lover or partner?

Here are a few reasons. They are not exhaustive by any means, but will hopefully poke your emotions and give you reason for pause or action.

  • Financial Reasons (stress affecting your job performance, you’re paying all the bills)
  • Can’t Stand the Lying
  • Social Stigma (not acceptable in your social group)
  • Your Relationship Is Already Stagnant (need a reason to end it)
  • Want To Avoid Hurting Children
  • Violates Your Pre-Nuptial
  • Embarrassed
  • Want a Reason to End Relationship Anyway (you’ve met someone else, no longer share same interests)
  • Tired of Abuse (Physical, mental & emotional)

Only you know the real reason. And, what are you going to do if you find out that you’re partner is in fact guilty of cheating? You’ve got three choices. Stay and try to work it out, leave and start afresh or ignore the evidence. Two of the choices require action, and one does not. So what’s it going to be?

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Your choice, whatever it is, leads to other consequences some good and some not so good, depending on your circumstances. It is this dilemma that causes so many good women (and men) to remain in an unhealthy relationships way beyond the point when they should have ended.

Part 2 – Consequences of Staying With A Cheater

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