Tiger Woods Infidelity|Selfish & Self-Centered

Recent polls on Tiger Woods are divided into two or three camps of thoughts.

Tiger Woods has fallen out of favor with a large percentage of the public since the revelation of his extramarital involvements. The public can be very fickle with regard to its heroes.

The philosophy “what have you done for me lately” prevails. I think very often that the “sin” is being caught.

Many politicians, sports figures, and other celebrities pay publicist to manage their images. Their paid staff fronts for them so that there is no appearance of wrongdoing.

Polls only reflect public knowledge of behavior the public knows nothing of the real character of these individual that are under public scrutiny.

There are unique elements that drive highly successful people. Sometimes the character elements that create a “number one” in anything are not particularly attractive or alluring.

To be number one at anything requires a certain  selfishness and self-contentedness.

Super athletes like Tiger Woods spend most of their time developing their craft, not relationship skills. Most of these iconic figures are self-adsorbed and self-centered. The time they spend developing a perfect golf swing, hitting tennis ball, shagging flies or ground balls etc, requires the kind of attention that leaves little room for healthy relationships.

Many women are attracted to these superb athletes not understanding that what makes them great at their craft, is their selfishness.

These women are in denial, thinking falsely that they (the woman) can change them (the athlete).

You have to understand that the enormous ego that it takes to be number one leaves little room for validating and nurturing their so-called loved ones.

There is no time to build a healthy perspective that leads to healthy relationships. They give things they give very little of themselves. Cheating satisfies the ego.

Every conquest is another trophy.

It is reported that Tiger’s wife Elin Nordegren had concerns about Tiger’s fidelity before they married…

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Steve McNair: The Ultimate Price For Cheating On Your Spouse…

I think Jason Cole, Yahoo Sports, summed up our feelings about the tragic death of Steve McNair in his article: Fans can’t avoid “the elephant in the room” at McNair’s memorial “There are a year’s worth of sermons and lessons that people could take from the death of Steve McNair at the hands of his unstable mistress.”

Here’s a man who seemingly had everything – beautiful wife and children, fame, money and the respect of his peers and community, yet something was obviously terribly wrong.

Steve McNair paid the ultimate price for cheating on his wife – death.

Somehow the public’s fascination with the rich and famous desensitizes them to the fact that a wife is now a widow, children are now fatherless and friends and family are left “struggling with questions.”
This incident should remind us that infidelity has consequences. It causes pain to everyone involved directly and indirectly.

Regardless of your position in life whether private or public the betrayal of marital infidelity destroys lives. Even if you’re not married; but in a committed relationship, the betrayal of trust hurts. It erodes the injured parties’ ability to trust in the future for fear of being hurt again.

We are not privy to the intimate details of the McNair’s marriage.  It remains a mystery. What is apparent is that his affair was very public by all indications, most notably the now infamous TMZ photo.

The unfortunate truth however is that most men and women involved in with a cheater will never take action. Whether out of fear of finding out the truth (denial), fear of financial loss, or fear of physical harm they simply acquiesce to the reality that their husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on them.

The real question will you take action if you suspect that your spouse or partner is cheating on you?
For most of us, if infidelity should strike our relationships, it will be far from the scrutiny of the media. It will be personal, but no less painful.

Breaking news of cheating spouses in recent weeks lets us know that the incidents of cheating are on the rise, not the decline.

Cheating on your spouse is fast becoming the norm, not the exception as evidenced by Governor Mark Sanford, South Carolina and Jon Goesslin star of the reality T.V. show Jon & Kate Plus 8.

What Can You Do If You Suspect A Cheating Spouse?

If you suspect your spouse or significant other is cheating, you have two options…

1. Do Nothing…
2. Get The Truth

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Signs Of Cheating In A Relationship

Do You Recognize These Signs of Cheating In Your Relationship?

The most disturbing, and perhaps the most heart-breaking, news you can ever receive is your spouse’s involvement with someone else. You feel angry and betrayed with a deep sense of emptiness. You’re so devastated and you want to confront him/her, but you’re trying so hard to restrain yourself for fear you may wind up saying or doing something you might regret later on.

First, it is important to remember that no matter how bad things look, there is no point in spending your time worrying.  Until you have proof and your suspicions are confirmed, worrying about it won’t help you. Even some of the most blatant Signs of Cheating in a Relationship can be perfectly innocent.  While pretending that there are no signs isn’t helpful, it is equally true that you should not make too much of these signs until you have proof of infidelity.

Here are some Signs of Cheating in a Relationship

The Cell Phone. Have you noticed unusual or suspicious cell phone behavior? Does your spouse need to take calls in another room? Are there so many text messages that he would not like you to see? What about pictures of “strangers”? In today’s society everyone carries a cell phone, even kids. So it’s not uncommon for your partner to have a phone or use their phone. But if he or she is been secretive with his or her cell phone then he may be cheating in the relationship.

Condoms. You find condoms in their wallet or purse. If you all don’t use condoms as a form of birth-control, this is a definite sign. If you do, but your sexual activities are confined to your own bedroom, why are they carrying condoms?

Unusual Computer Activity. If your spouse is suddenly spending late hours surfing the net or creating new email accounts and password incrypting their accounts, it’s usually a sign that they’re hiding something. Email & text messaging are one of the most common methods of communication for cheating spouses with their lovers.

Changes in Sexual Activity. We are all creatures of habit. If you’ve noticed changing in your spouses/partners sexual practices; things that just don’t seem normal, it could be a sign that their experimenting with someone else. Likewise, if you notice a decrease in their sexual attraction to you, the same could be true.

Physical evidence.  Lipstick on the collar, a scrap of paper that says “call me”, or odd numbers that appear more than chance would allow on the cell phone bill are examples of physical ways to catch a cheating spouse.

Social Changes. It is perfectly healthy to have other friends even after marriage and definitely acceptable to be spending time with them. However, are there changes their social patterns? Is your spouse spending more and more time with his/her friends than with you lately? This can be an indication of infidelity.

The above are some of the well know signs of cheating in a relationship but no matter how painful the situation is, the best action is to equip yourself with “real” information that will help you to discover the truth.

This is why knowing all the signs of cheating in a relationship is a must,  as there are many more.

Thankfully there are some simple steps which you can take to discover the truth about your spouse, especially if you suspect them of  cheating.

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Why Catch The Cheating Spouse?

Why Do You Want To Catch The Cheater?

Here’s a serious question. Why are you here at this website?

Since this website is about Catching Cheating Spouses, Lovers or Partners I can only assume that either you suspect your husband, partner or significant other of cheating on you or that you have some warped fascination with the subject of infidelity.

Assuming that you’re not some warped, mentally and emotionally unbalanced person, then I guess you have a legitimate reason to want to find out as much as you can about cheating, cheaters and how to catch them.

A simple search on “Cheating Spouses” or “How To Catch Cheating XXXX” reveals a plethora of websites, products, and techniques for catching suspected cheaters.

The bigger question however is, “Why Do You Want To Catch Them?” Why is the answer to this question important? Because until you answer this question, you can do all the research on the subject of infidelity in the world, but I seriously doubt that you’ll take any real action.

Why Do You Want To Catch A Cheating spouse, lover or partner?

Here are a few reasons. They are not exhaustive by any means, but will hopefully poke your emotions and give you reason for pause or action.

• Financial Reasons (stress affecting your job performance, you’re paying all the bills)
• Can’t Stand the Lying
• Social Stigma (not acceptable in your social group)
• Your Relationship Is Already Stagnant (need a reason to end it)
• Want To Avoid Hurting Children
• Violates Your Pre-Nuptial
• Embarrassed
• Want a Reason to End Relationship Anyway (you’ve met someone else, no longer share same interests)
• Tired of Abuse (Physical, mental & emotional)

Only you know the real reason. And, what are you going to do if you find out that you’re partner is in fact guilty of cheating? You’ve got three choices. Stay and try to work it out, leave and start afresh or ignore the evidence. Two of the choices require action, and one does not. So what’s it going to be?

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Your choice, whatever it is, leads to other consequences some good and some not so good, depending on your circumstances. It is this dilemma that causes so many good women (and men) to remain in an unhealthy relationships way beyond the point when they should have ended.

Part 2 – Consequences of Staying With A Cheater

Are You In Denial About Your Cheating Spouse?

Denial doesn’t change the truth…

According to nationally known top Private Investigator Bill Mitchell, most victims of adultery & infidelity are in DENIAL about being cheated on.

Most women, when confronted about the likelihood that there spouse is cheating  make claims that their spouses would never ever cheat on them. However, according to statistics this could very well happen to them

Basically, these folks don’t really want to come to terms with the fact that their husband or wife, boyfriend of girlfriend violated their deepest trust and commited and act of personal treason.

It’s easier for them, the person cheated on, to make excuses, deflect or even ignore all the obvious signs of cheating, even when deep down they know it to be true.

Denial is the place where they retreat that insulates them from the hurt and pain of reality.

What is denial?

Denial is a way to avoid facing the negative consequences of reality (i,e. the possibility of divorce, shame, ridicule, financial loss, etc.)

If  you’re unwilling to face that your partner cheated on you on either a conscious or subconscious level, you’re in denial.

• Denial is acting as though there are no problems to face.
• Denial is a defensive response you use to protect yourself from the pain, hurt or suffering as a result of a cheating partner.
• Denial is when you mask to hide your real feelings or emotions.
• Denial is a what you do to avoid conflict, disagreements or disapproval from your cheating spouse or partner.
• Denial is a way of retaining our sanity when experiencing unbearable pain.
• Denial is a way to repress the truth of our loss a way to continue to function in “normally.”
• Denial is a pattern of life for individuals who are compulsively driven to “look good.” (What will my friend and family think?)
• Denial is a way to avoid the risk of change as a result of problems or loss (I’ve been married for “X” years, what will I do?).

If all the tell-tale signs such as: Physical Appearance, How He Relates to You, Conversational Clues,  Work Habits,  Day-to-Day Behavior, Financial Affairs, Travel, Personality Changes,  Absences,  Telephone Tip-offs,  Car Clues, point to cheating and you decide not to deal with it, YOU’RE IN DENIAL!

Do you find yourself denying your very existence to make everyone around you happy. Just could be that you’re in denial.

Denial is a common option because…

1. You may feel you have too much to lose if you don’t. An example is the classic case of a married man or woman who is in love with someone besides their spouse, but they obviously can’t admit it because they have too much to lose. So they live a life of quiet desperation.
2. Nothing will come of admitting the truth. Just like the above scenario, the person lives in denial because, to admit to whatever, will not bring any change to a situation.
3. You can’t handle facing the truth. Some people live in denial because the truth is too much to bear. It might imply the worst about themselves or create conflict and contradictions too impossible to deal with.
4. You don’t want to hurt those who “love you”. Denying the truth about something might occur when we’re trying to protect those who love us.
5. You want to avoid arguments and debates. Sometimes we deny the truth to avoid getting into arguments with others. Some people will pick a fight and start trouble with the “truth,” so we just deny our true feelings.
6. You can’t handle rejection and ridicule. Many people deny what they really feel because if they admit to it, they will be either rejected or ridiculed and their pride or low self-esteem can’t handle it.

But, the reality is…

1. Your situation will only get worse as time goes on; hiding your head in the sand, turning to alcohol, drugs, or work, won’t change how you really feel.
2. Adultery/Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal, in fact it’s nothing short of a fatality.
3. Not knowing the truth leaves you feeling hopeless and helpless.

There’s Another Option…

One option is to nothing by burying your head in the sand believing that things will change. Unfortunately, they won’t. The longer you put off dealing with it, the more painful it will be to deal with later on when reality finally sets in.

The best option is to take action and catch them in the act.

It’s time to act, now. Uncover the facts and let the truth set you free .

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Cheating Is Not The Problem… It’s Your Relationship!

The statics related to cheating spouses are without question staggering. Studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship.

Most people involved with someone who cheats on them, lay the blame on thecheating partner, the husband or wife who broke their vows, the girlfriend who had the secret relationship with her co-worker and so on. But the real problem is not the fact that you’re significant other cheated on you.

The real problem is your relationship!

Cheating is selfish behavior. Selfish people are self-centered and only really concerned about themselves. Though they may mask their true nature for a time, eventually, who they really are will surface.

Husbands who cheat as well as wives who cheat are incapable of real intimacy, which is the core problem. People who cheat are emotionally unavailable for their partners. Therefore they seek to handle stress, pain, anger and any number of emotions outsides of the bounds of the committed relationship. Therein is the problem.

When we think of intimacy in our modern Western culture, it is most often attributed to the carnal, the romantic or the sexual union between two people. Intimacy is actually much, much more.

Intimacy is about sharing your deepest most inner being with another. It’s about being transparent in what you think and how you feel. It’s about openness. Because most people enter into relationships based on false notions of love and romance, when those aspects of the relationship begin to fade, so does the relationship.

Rather than honestly communication their thoughts and feelings to their partner; good, bad or ugly, men and women seek counsel outside of the relationship with friends or family members who at best can only relate from their own experiences which too, are often skewed based on personal experience.

Honesty with yourself above all else is a core principle that is overlooked. When we’re dishonest with ourselves we compromise with those core values that should be non-negotiable. The more we slide away from these core values, the less we hold to our true selves, the more the other person believes that what they say or do is all right.

Deep inside we begin to resent them. We grow out of touch. Why, because there was never true intimacy to begin with.

Relationships in general take work to maintain and mature. When we partner with another individual, we both bring baggage. Some of the baggage is acceptable and some we just throw in the closet. Unfortunately, it all begins to surface eventually. When we do not deal with our issues in a healthy and honest way, they fester.  As is the case with most codependent behavior, cheating is just a symptom of deeper unresolved issues.

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Cheating Partner? Is Spying The Answer?

Caught Cheating…

Catching a cheating spouse is never going to be easy. But if what you want is to  find out and be sure if your spouse is truly cheating on you or not, there are ways!

Is the use of software to a catch a cheating spouse/partner, the right thing to do? What are the ramifications? Well, you can discover the truth, that they’ve been lying to you for weeks or months and that your relationship is built on deceit and deception.

On the other hand, you may discover that you’re just controlling, jealous, vindictive and a whole bunch of other things and that your spouse or significant other is “true blue.” They never cheated on you!

Without trust and honesty, no relationship can grow or mature. Women have especially high expectations about honesty and fidelity in a relationship. Men, on the other hand, tend to rely on situational ethics. If I can get away with it, why not?

You want to know if you spouse is cheating on you! You can of course just, simply ask them. Ask direct questions in an honest and straightforward way to try and discover the truth.

But hey, don’t get me wrong.  Most people who are cheating will deny any wrongdoing until presented with proof. Actually catching a cheating spouse usually ends up involving some kind of surveillance, either by hiring a private detective (which can be expensive), going on a reality T.V. show (Jerry Springer comes to mind) and making a fool of yourself on national T.V.  or using a easy to afford, easy to use, secret software program to find out for yourself. How To Catch A Cheating Spouse  is one such program. It comes with a 100%, 8 week Money Back Guarantee.

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• Tired of sucking it up and suffering in silence…

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