How To Save Your Marriage After Cheating

A marriage is seriously damaged when one or both partners are involved in extramarital affair. Marriage is a covenant whose basis is in mutual trust.  When trust is lost between a married couple,  it threatens the very the foundation of the marriage, often beyond the point of repair.

The pain and bitterness resulting from an extramarital affair leaves both parties emotionally damaged. Both the person who cheated and the victim of thier infidelity are hurt. It is difficult to acknowledge that your partner has broken their marriage vows and after the period of denial, when the truth finally sets in, pain and anger generally follow. You are saddened, angered, reviled by the sense of ultimate betrayal.

Only you can determine if you want to save your marriage.  And, this decision can not be made lightly. The road back to sanity in the marriage will be long and hard. While you may forgive the cheating spouse, you have been violated and your ability to trust implicitly has been compromised.

Often the cheating spouse will place the blame on his or her partner. Cheating spouses often attempt to justify their cheating attempting to tear down the esteem of the injured party. Regardless of their flaws or even their culbability in the situation, the person who cheated made the choice to do so.

Only you can decide if you truly want to forgive your partner. It will be an extremely hard decision to make. But with proper counseling and a decision and commitment to honesty the relationship can be healed and trust restored.

If you feel your marriage can be saved, then it is important to sit down with your partner and careful discuss why this happened and what can be done to repair the marriage and to restore the relationship.

I advocate marriage counseling for both parties. As stated in previous post, the problem is not the cheating. The problem is the relationship.  A counselor can help both parties understand the underlying triggers that led to the infidelity.

Don’t make any quick decisions. Both partners need to really talk and decide whether their they want to rebuild their relationship and work on themselves both as individuals and as a couple; and why. Make sure that this is understood from the beginning so that high expectations will be tempered with judgment.

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