Why Catch The Cheating Spouse – Part2

Reasons Why Women Stay In Bad Relationships…

Let me share a few. (Albeit, these are mostly reasons that women stay in bad relationships).

• He will change.
• He pays my bills.
• Am used to him and I know him better than the devil.
• He has infected me with an incurable disease so who will want me now.
• I have a child or children with him; let me stay for their sake.
• I can’t feed the kids, care for them nor educate them.
• I feel obligated because he has done so much for me e.g. he bought me a car, etc
• Scared of starting another relationship because the next guy might be worse than him.
• I still love him even if he hits me when he loses his temper or comes home drunk.
• He says he still loves me and cares for me.
• I have already spent then prime of my life with him and am older now, so let me just stay with him.
• If I leave, my family and friends will talk and say I have failed to keep my marriage.
• I don’t have a job as I left high school to stay with him; where will I go?

Here’s the truth. Believing any of the above is just feeding into a lie. My experience has shown me that “change isn’t change, until its change”. Until YOU decide to make a change, nothing will happen.

Consequences of being with a cheater…

The Blame Game: These feelings of guilt motivate the cheater to demonize the faithful spouse or lover in an attempt to justify their affair.

You Pay for Their Bad Behavior: The cheating spouse will tell their story often and to anyone who will listen, to the point that they will finally begin to truly believe that the left behind spouse deserves punishment. The faithful spouse is the offender and the persecutor and needs to be dealt with harshly.

Shocked and Awed: The faithful spouse will question their own sanity and replay their marriage in their mind trying to find some hint of all the unhappiness they are told of by the unfaithful spouse.

Disease: Potential for STD’s and other sexually transmitted diseases.

Children: Children are damaged in the process, sometimes being scarred for life as one or the other parent is made to be the villain by the other.

Relationships: Family and friends are hurt as a result of infidelity. They often feel forced to take sides.

Summary: Choosing to find out the truth or not is a choice only you can make. However, although the truth may be painful, that pain will only last for a season. What about the pain and anguish of a life wasted? If you’re married to someone or in a committed relationship with your partner and you suspect them of cheating, there are already deeper problems with the relationship. Apparently, there have already been “red” flags of potential infidelity.

Remaining in a state of limbo in your relationship is a sign of low self-esteem or at the extreme a sign of insanity.

Finding out the truth, either that they have been unfaithful or that you’re concerns were unfounded (then you really need help with your issues) is the only way to move forward in a healthy and positive way.

Want to find out the truth, How To Catch The Cheating Spouse.